What If We Just Said Yes? – Week 6

Think back to the time when you were offered your first job. With some excitement in your heart, you knew you would get the job: and then the hiring manager made his offer “we’re prepared to offer you the job. Do you accept?”

It only takes you a second to decide, and you quickly say “no.”

Now think back again, but this time to a time where you really wanted to be with someone. The person asks if you want to meet at a restaurant for lunch, and you know that this is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for.

Smiling to yourself, you’re happy to have this chance to meet up with this person, so you quickly tell them “no.”

If this sounds strange, you’re absolutely right. Neither one of these situations would cause you to say “no.” In fact, in both scenarios you would find yourself giving an emphatic “yes!” Of course you will accept your first job offer or take an opportunity to spend time with a person you care about. If you didn’t, who knows what that opportunity would have been like? Who knows what you’d have missed?

Yet each day, all of us say “no” to new opportunities that could have accelerated growth in our lives. Why?

We think that we have good reason to decline opportunities

And maybe we do. But perhaps we should make it a habit of examining our reasoning before we say “no” to a proposition. Is it because we are focused so much on the short term that we cannot see a benefit to investing time into a venture that may not pay off until the future, if ever? Or is it that we are so used to refusing offers and opportunities that our negative response has become a knee-jerk reaction? Maybe we even say no because we aren’t fond of the person presenting the opportunity, although the idea is perfectly good – could that be? Of course, there are many factors that cause us to say no to opportunities and this is by no means an exhaustive list. My point is, we should carefully look at our reasoning for declining an opportunity so that we do not haphazardly pass by something good. I’ll admit, sometimes saying no is our only option – it can be a way of budgeting our limited supply of time and waiting for a better opportunity that we couldn’t have if we were committed elsewhere – but again, we run the risk of missing great things if we don’t examine the reasons for our answer.

How can we say yes to more things?

We can only say yes to things that we have time to do. And with a limited allotment of 24 hours each day, this presents us with a dilemma: we can’t possibly say “yes” to everything. Although this is true, we can still budget and use these 24 hours as wisely and efficiently as possible. Making lists of the things we need to accomplish each day will help us stay on track, while eliminating unproductive uses of our time will make more room for opportunities that arise.

In the end, you have to make time for opportunities that come up. Then when they arise, you’ll be able to say “yes” while watching the future get brighter before your very eyes.

What did you think? Leave some feedback! :)

7 thoughts on “What If We Just Said Yes? – Week 6

  1. Austin,
    Follow you gut, at the same time have vision and priority for your life and business. A “no” with a smile is sometimes better than a “yes” but regret later on.
    Interesting post.
    Mary

    1. Completely agree, Mary! “No” can definitely be the best answer as long as we examine our reasoning wisely. I know that I am personally guilty of saying no in the past for the wrong set of reasons and missed out on opportunities because of it.

  2. I liked the hook of this article…responding with the surprise “no” kept me reading. I recently took a self-quiz and one of the questions was along the lines of: how much money do you want to have in your account in the next five years: $0, $100K, $1M or $5M? The book asked “why would you choose anything except the $5M” at the end of the exercise. Kind of obvious in a way, but it got me thinking that we do limit ourselves sometimes with our unspoken expectations. If we don’t expect to make $5M, it almost certainly won’t happen. Maybe it won’t happen anyway, but the attitude has to be in place first. Nice post!

  3. Austin,

    I see opportunities all the time that I want to take a hold of, and leap into, but then I think rationally and logically and tell myself you don’t have the money for that, or a strong enough idea for that, it’s too risky to take that leap without a net to catch you. I just think some opportunities come too soon when I am not ready and don’t have the means. I just hope that more will present themselves when I’m ready for it, and have something more developed.

    Thanks,

    Mackensie

    1. Hi Mackensie, I’m glad that you rationally decided when to determine whether to accept or reject an achievement. That’s the best way to go about it! There have been sometimes that I didn’t do that, and instead chose to say no for reasons that didn’t amount to much. So you’re absolutely right. Thanks for the comment!

  4. Great blog post! I think we’ve all been in the situation before of saying no to things we probably should have said yes to. And, for that matter saying yes to the things we needed to say no to. Right? I like to think of every day a new opportunity and in that day lots of great opportunities come our way. Like you said, we each only have 24 hours in a day and time is of the essence. But, if we managed our time effectively, we would have more time to say “yes” to those opportunities that arise that weren’t on our schedule for the day. And you never know where new doors will take you! I don’t say yes to everything that comes by way and time is 99% of the reason, I just don’t have enough time. But what if we said yes? Where would we be?

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